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The so-called 'leaders' of Australia's queer communities spend a lot of time publicly fretting about same-sex couples not being granted the same privileges as differing couples, but seem to care a lot less about those for whom such concerns would be relatively good worries to have: "Bullying 'pushing homosexual students to suicide'". i've ranted about this topic previously; i so wish that the queer communities' priorities weren't so driven by middle-class, middle-aged, cisgendered white men . . . .

And further to my complaints about assimilationism in the linked-to post, assimilationist blaming of supposedly 'fake' trans people for society's diversityphobic treatment of 'real' trans people, as i've just read on the Trans-Academics Google Group, makes flexibeast sad. :-((
 

Date: 2008-11-18 05:08 (UTC)
From: [identity profile] radicalyffe.livejournal.com
assimilationist blaming of supposedly 'fake' trans people for society's diversityphobic treatment of 'real' trans people

FUCK THAT! People suck.

Seriously.

Date: 2008-11-18 09:38 (UTC)
From: [identity profile] flexibeast.livejournal.com
*sad nod*

By the way, the claimed 'fake' trans person in question is Thomas Beattie, who is, in the poster's own words, _NOT_ a T*, but a Super Butch Lesbian that has crossed the line and who makes it _MUCH_ harder for the "normal" T* to be seen as a normal person . . . [and] brings ridicule on the majority.

Date: 2008-11-18 09:48 (UTC)
From: [identity profile] radicalyffe.livejournal.com
Oh for fucks sake...

The thing is, no matter how hard we try to assimilate, we will NEVER SUCCEED.

Do they think, that if they play by all the rules, live their life by the mandates of what makes cisgendered people comfortable, that on the day they are discovered to be trans, by some hate filled bigot, that the bigot will go 'Oh, you are a good tranny. Let me pet you on the head. At least you TRY to be normal!'???

Of course fucking not. There is no 'normal T*' in the eyes of the bigotted public, and it will never become "normal" if they don't know we exist.

Thomas Beatie didn't take our rights away, it was a bigotted and hateful government. Thomas Beattie doesn't deny the right to transition to people, its the MEDICAL PROFESSION that does that.

I know you know all this, I just get so FRUSTRATED AND ANGRY.

And I want to HIT THINGS.

Date: 2008-11-18 10:58 (UTC)
From: [identity profile] flexibeast.livejournal.com
I know you know all this, I just get so FRUSTRATED AND ANGRY.

Likewise; the victim-blaming underlying assimilationism is pretty nauseating . . . .

Date: 2008-11-18 10:34 (UTC)
From: [identity profile] auntysarah.livejournal.com
I've had trans people tell me that I am making them more likely to be killed by going to Pride.

For real.

Date: 2008-11-18 10:03 (UTC)
From: [identity profile] porcineflight.livejournal.com
Anna Bligh is my local MP. I have just sent her an email asking to know what she plans to do about systemic homophobic bullying in Queensland schools.

As for the comments about legitimate vs fake T* people (or other varieties of queer) that totally sucks.

Date: 2008-11-18 11:17 (UTC)
From: [identity profile] flexibeast.livejournal.com
Anna Bligh is my local MP. I have just sent her an email asking to know what she plans to do about systemic homophobic bullying in Queensland schools.

Awesome! :-D

As for the comments about legitimate vs fake T* people (or other varieties of queer) that totally sucks.

*sad nod* Thanks. :-)

Date: 2008-11-18 10:54 (UTC)
From: [identity profile] earthcat.livejournal.com
equality is the goal in my opinion - same sex couples ought to have the same legal privileges as opposite sex that's only fair.......... the problem remains about the inequality that exists and is socially sanctioned



p.s. we are all people.
Society needs to get over the distinctions ...

as does gldtq society (or whatever one wants to call this society)
I am so over all this bull shit regarding wanky arguments regarding termonilogy like "cis" "trans" "dyke" "poof" or whatever .....big deal Not.... this shit is all so wanky really....

oh and p.s.
I find it personally really offensive to be referred to as "cis gendered" to me that is totally disrespectful.... see not everyone falls into the same category....
rant ranty rant

blah

Date: 2008-11-18 11:15 (UTC)
From: [identity profile] flexibeast.livejournal.com
same sex couples ought to have the same legal privileges as opposite sex that's only fair

Well, fundamentally, i don't think that the state should be in the business of privileging certain types of relationship arrangements over others. But given that the state is in that business, i think that those privileges should be granted to as wide a variety of relationships as possible. Which is why i support legal equality for same-sex couples, up to and including marriage.

But that wasn't my point here. My point is that i find it morally repugnant that there seems to be more concern in the queer community about superannuation benefits than for queer youth being driven to suicide by bullying.

I am so over all this bull shit regarding wanky arguments regarding termonilogy like "cis" "trans" "dyke" "poof" or whatever

Apparently not, because you've also written:

I find it personally really offensive to be referred to as "cis gendered" to me that is totally disrespectful

Which is fair enough if you're not actually cisgendered; if someone called me cisgendered, despite them knowing that i identify otherwise, i would feel highly offended and totally disrespected also.

Do you identify as trans, then?

Date: 2008-11-19 12:23 (UTC)
From: [identity profile] earthcat.livejournal.com
i'm glad you have the time to pick this apart, i may respond in full when i have time... anyhow as I said with the title "society needs to get over the (overarching) distinctions"... briefly, both youth suicide and superannuation etc are important actually i reckon there is a flow on effect... if same sex couples are not recognised well no wonder more queer kids suicide (of course there are other issues etc that are complex) (and please don't take me out of context again with your cut quotes of my text)... it's a follow on effect... maybe queer kids would cop less flack at school if the government recognised queerness for example in obvious ways with for eg relationships (which does relate to superannuation which is important as well)... and in my opinion it is important to recognise the diversity of relationships etc

the second half of your response is offensive to me, it is disrespectful and it is sarcastic not in a good way... i won't bother to dignify it with a response at the moment.... other than....hey I just dont' like the sound of the term and think it doesn't really make sense scientifically or definitionally

Date: 2008-11-19 13:50 (UTC)
From: [identity profile] flexibeast.livejournal.com
* i agree both issues have importance. And certainly it's possible that progress on one issue could lead to progress in the other. i also feel that the queer community has the resources to raise public awareness and make progress on both issues. If that is indeed the case, then why should one of those issues be so much more heavily emphasised than the other? But if that's not the case, and we have to choose one issue, should we not choose to directly work on solving the problem where lives are at stake, rather than solving the one where this is much less the case and hoping that the other issue is solved indirectly?

* i was not trying to be disrespectful, nor sarcastic. i was trying to work out, from the little information you provided, where you might be coming from. And indeed, i actually tried to make an effort to withhold from my reply the anger that i felt upon reading your remarks, because i was concerned that i was leaping to false conclusions about your position. Apparently i failed; but i must say your most recent comment leaves me wondering whether i should have even made the effort.

Your comments are not conducive to mutual understanding. You have stated that you are offended, but have failed to give any explanation of why this is beyond "I just dont' like the sound of the term and think it doesn't really make sense scientifically or definitionally". And your remark that you "won't bother to dignify" my question with a response strongly suggests to me that you actually don't have anything substantial to say, and are thus refusing to engage in discussion that would clarify your position. Thus, since i have nothing else to go on, i will concentrate on the last sentence of your comment.

"Don't like the sound of the term"? Well, 'cis' is simply a prefix that is the opposite of the 'trans' prefix, and has no eytmologically negative connotations that i'm aware of. To describe, for example, one train service as 'cisalpine' and the other as 'transalpine' is purely descriptive, and does not imply something negative about the former that does not apply to the latter: one doesn't cross mountains, the other does. That's it. Yes, i acknowledge that the term 'cissy' has been used as an insult by some trans people; it's a term i don't like either, which is why i don't use it, and use the purely descriptive term 'cisgendered' instead.

Moving on to "it doesn't really make sense scientifically or definitionally". i can only presume that you are alluding to the fact that gender is (at the least) a continuum, and that hard-and-fast divisions are not possible. i agree. But does the fact that sexual orientation, for example, is also, at least, a spectrum mean that it's senseless to talk of 'heterosexuals', a purely descriptive term to identify those who are solely attracted to the so-called 'opposite' sex? No. Similarly, in terms of gender, we can make a rough division between those who basically identify with the sex / gender assigned to them at birth, and those who don't. i use the term 'cisgendered' to broadly refer to the former group; 'transgender' to broadly refer to the latter.

Now, if you don't identify with the sex / gender assigned to you at birth, then i, for one, would consider you to be, in some sense, transgendered and not cisgendered. And if that is indeed the case, i am genuinely intrigued, and would like further details about why you find the term 'cisgendered' so offensive that you struggle to give a full explanation of why you find it so; and also what, if any, term you think could be instead used to describe those who aren't trans. If that's not the case, then i am offended, very much so: offended that someone in a position of privilege with regards to their gender is whinging about the offensiveness of a purely descriptive term, instead of confronting their position of privilege. Just as i would find it offensive for a heterosexual to be complaining about the term 'heterosexual', given society's oppression of non-heterosexual people. i'm hoping, however, that the latter interpretation of your vague remarks is incorrect, and that you will provide a clear explanation of where you're coming from which demonstrates this.

Date: 2008-11-20 10:26 (UTC)
From: [identity profile] earthcat.livejournal.com
In my opinion both the issues of youth suicide (in the GLBTQ etc) community and queer marriage are being focused on and both are important - depending on the times the media focus does of course vary but this does not mean that important research etc isn't happening in regards to GLBT and other youth suicide (on things like prevention, early intervention, intervention etc)

Regarding cisgender, it would make more sense to me if the term cissexual was used as gender is what ever a person's representation of their male, female or otherwiseness is? Hmm, I'm not sure if this is making sense.... Apologies that I took your comments for being sarcastic etc when your intention was not to be.. anyway its not a term that's really in common useage and maybe its just that I didn't really get the meaning of it or whatever... really I don't care that much, call me what you like and I'll call myself what I like. Sorry didn't mean to make a big deal out of it all, probably shouldn't have said anything in the first place *slaps forehead for making a fuss about a word that is obviously important to you (and others) but doesn't really mean much to me* .... in a strange way the first thing I think of when I hear the term cis is cissy so I guess that's "sound" of the term that I don't really like or something. Of course there is the whole meaning of gender vs sex thing that I mentioned before - which is a huge debate in its self that could go around in circles and I am rather time poor at the moment.

So apologies and I'll sign off on this topic now

Date: 2008-11-19 23:50 (UTC)
From: [identity profile] cheshire-bitten.livejournal.com
Why is cis gendered offensive to you? Do you consider yourself trans, or do you also find trans gendered offensive.


Cis doesn't mean you are a 50's housewife/working man, it is just a signifier that you are not trans, that your birth sex and your current gender identity and persentation are allined.

You I.D as a lesbain (from your user info) would you consider someone being defined as straight offensive?

Date: 2008-11-20 14:12 (UTC)
From: [identity profile] earthcat.livejournal.com
I neither consider myself trans or find trans offensive

I find it interesting that noone has taken note of the main theme of my overall post - "over all this bull shit regarding wanky arguments regarding termonilogy like "cis" "trans" "dyke" "poof" or whatever .....big deal Not.... this shit is all so wanky really...."

... the main point was terminology can be both bullshit and thought provoking... seems that's what occured after said post

signing off


Date: 2008-11-20 23:50 (UTC)
From: [identity profile] flexibeast.livejournal.com
I find it interesting that noone has taken note of the main theme of my overall post - "over all this bull shit regarding wanky arguments regarding termonilogy like "cis" "trans" "dyke" "poof" or whatever .....big deal Not.... this shit is all so wanky really...."

See my latest LJ entry (http://flexibeast.livejournal.com/110838.html).

the main point was terminology can be both bullshit and thought provoking

*nod* Agreed.

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